2017 Quarter Life Crisis Update.
What can I say? A year after my quarter life crisis I have, in equal parts, moved on and accepted it. Everybody goes through it at some point and in one way or another. I think it's a rite of passage to grow up.
Having a quarter life crisis made me tackle some hang-ups I have, about myself and about growing up. That, and work, has made be a better grown-up. Not that that's necessarily a good thing, but it is what it is.
In fact, that's one lesson that stood out the most from having a quarter life crisis: "it is what it is." There are some things in life you can change, but for most other things, you can't. You can only work your way around it or accept it.
The turning point for me during my quarter life cycle was just realizing that I'm pretty much tired with the complaints. Dad once made an analogy of falling into a dark pit. Instead of sitting there and complaining how dark it is and how you can't see a thing, the least you could do is start crawling in the dark looking for a way out.
And that's what I decided to do. Instead of wallowing and complaining, I decided to do something about it or shut up and not say anything. I bought tickets to Labuan Bajo, booked a trip to Bandung, went on a long overdue trip with my college friends. I sort of embraced my position with the company, I sort of embraced the people in the office.
There are still moments where I get lost in my head and long for whatever it is that's missing in my life, but it is what it is.
All in all, I feel more mature since last September. More aged, more rugged if that makes sense. Probably still too naive to be 25, but maybe I'm getting there.
Having a quarter life crisis made me tackle some hang-ups I have, about myself and about growing up. That, and work, has made be a better grown-up. Not that that's necessarily a good thing, but it is what it is.
In fact, that's one lesson that stood out the most from having a quarter life crisis: "it is what it is." There are some things in life you can change, but for most other things, you can't. You can only work your way around it or accept it.
The turning point for me during my quarter life cycle was just realizing that I'm pretty much tired with the complaints. Dad once made an analogy of falling into a dark pit. Instead of sitting there and complaining how dark it is and how you can't see a thing, the least you could do is start crawling in the dark looking for a way out.
And that's what I decided to do. Instead of wallowing and complaining, I decided to do something about it or shut up and not say anything. I bought tickets to Labuan Bajo, booked a trip to Bandung, went on a long overdue trip with my college friends. I sort of embraced my position with the company, I sort of embraced the people in the office.
There are still moments where I get lost in my head and long for whatever it is that's missing in my life, but it is what it is.
All in all, I feel more mature since last September. More aged, more rugged if that makes sense. Probably still too naive to be 25, but maybe I'm getting there.
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